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Articles - The Sad Facts About Divorce

Divorce rates are soaring in just about every so-called civilised country. In the UK there are about 150,000 divorces every year; 1.8 million in the past decade. There are nearly one million divorces a year in the United States. If you’re married already or are about to get married, you are far more likely to become divorced than win even a small National Lottery prize.

Marrying and then divorcing a nasty woman hurts. And in more ways than the non-divorced man can begin to imagine. The vast majority of divorced women walk away with the most valuable marital assets. Vindictive women can do it with a ruthless passion that is impossible for most men to understand. On top of that, the legal system is preferential to women. In up to 95 per cent of cases, residence of children is awarded to the mother, even when the father may be the better parent. Realise the following:

 •  Once married, you have a one-in-two chance of having to go through a divorce.

•  Imagining your marriage will improve without doing anything about it is a mistake.

•  You are not a failure because your relationship failed.

•  Whoever ‘transgresses’ through extra-marital affairs or physical or emotional abuse, both parties played a role in it, whether that role was active or passive.

•  An amicable divorce is extremely rare in abusive relationships. It can get very nasty indeed. Emotionally and psychologically it can be overwhelming, draining, frustrating, time-consuming, and of course, expensive. When children are involved it is all far worse.

•  Don’t be surprised if your wife decides to behave maliciously during the divorce, encouraged by friends, members of her family or her legal advisers.

•  Stories abound of women who had strings of affairs during their marriage but were still awarded punitive damages against their good husbands. 

•  It is irrelevant that you have been a good husband. In fact, being fair and honourable could end up costing you even more.

•  What kind of man you are doesn’t matter. You will be punished as if you were a bad husband.

•  Divorce for a man is always a damage limitation exercise. If you are dealing with a scorned, vindictive woman, a speedy exit is important.

•  You can do a lot to ensure you lose less.

 

 Extracted from “That Bitch: Protect Yourself Against Women with Malicious Intent”. For more information visit www.thatbitchbook.com

© Roy Sheppard and Mary T Cleary 2008

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